There are successful people in life. I don’t consider myself to be terribly successful; however, I think life is pretty good. What I will never understand, and never have in my entire life, is why some people are determined to be such complete and utter assholes.
I wish I could use another word, but I just don’t think another word gets my point across. There are people on this Earth that hate their life to the point that they cannot stand you to do anything except hate yours too.
I bring this up because I just got home from my soccer game. Sports bring out the worst in people, regardless of if they are watching or playing. I love playing soccer, absolute love it. I am forever grateful that my wife found me a team to play on, even if I am the loner on the team that doesn’t know anyone. Every game we play there is at least one (usually more) guy on he other team who is out to prove something. I am not sure what that something is, but he is going to push, shove, swear, swing, hack, whatever he has to do to prove that he is something. I hate that guy. That guy ruins what would be an otherwise great and fantastic game. I play on a co-ed team, and would love to play on a guys team, but I don’t want to play against guys like that and they are everywhere! Tonight that guy jacked an elbow into my eye completely on purpose, and for zero reason.
You see these people driving too. They speed, swerve, and are fluent road-ragers. They are taking out their hatred for life on the road, just as this moron in my soccer game took his rage out on our team tonight. We have a girl who is 4 feet tall and probably weighs 39 pounds, and he is throwing her to the ground and then yelling at her. Who does that?
You see these people at work (I might be one at work sometimes). Those people that hate their job so much that they are determined to make sure you hate your job too. They poo-poo any successes others have. Complain and complain.
You see it in politics, where just because you disagree with someone they will argue, curse, and scream at you. Neither of you needs to be wrong. Intelligent people can disagree!
I am so fired up about this right now because no one ever gets through to these people. They continue to aggressively go through life being complete assholes. They find happiness in bringing you down to their level. You may be more successful, but instead of working to get to your level, they are going to annoy the crap out of you to bring you down to theirs. Drives me crazy. We should just shoot people that are like this. Honestly, the world would be a better place without them (although we might run out of people).
I believe we need all types of people in the world, and I believe that success comes in all shapes and sizes. You can, like me, be successful personally but not professionally. I am terribly unhappy professionally (my boss knows that, no worries), but I don’t feel that I try to bring everyone down to my misery. And tomorrow, I am going to be more aware of my actions to make sure that I am not because this asshole really got me steamed tonight. He won (both on the field and with this), but I am pretty confident that he will wake up a loser tomorrow. Maybe that is harsh. As a Christian I think I am supposed to love everyone and pray for them and something else… Too fired up to think like that right now. I hate how upset that has me, and how upset I am in general about this…
Why are people like that? Why can’t we just be civil and enjoy life together? I believe there is enough happiness and joy to go around that we don’t need to base our happiness and joy frustrating and annoying others.
Luckily my kitten is here to cheer me up.
The Mirror of Erised 
Posted by brooke on November 15, 2010 at 1:55 am
totallllllly with you on thd asshole nature of people. I always say, people are inherently good for their own good.
Posted by Juju on December 20, 2010 at 8:54 pm
People are aholes because they are only concerned about themselves and what they want. They don’t give a damn about anyone else. Don’t believe that old bullshit about they have low self esteem or whatever. They have way too high of a self esteem. They feel they have earned their money, so they shuldn’t share any of it with anyone else. Never mind that they drove to work on roads someone else built, put on clothes someone else made, ate food someone else grew, took a shower in water warmed with coal some coal miner dug out of the ground at high risk to his own life, etc. Maybe they were lucky enough to have a two-parent, stable family and not grow up in a crack infested neighborhood. But, hey, they are wonderful and they did it all by themselves. Why, they were born able to read and write- they aren’t even humbled that a teacher taught them, probably at a public school paid for by everyone. THEY are so damn great, their sh*t smells like roses. they go to church to thank God who has so greatly rewarded their greatness, never mind the fact that Jesus wasn’t too fond of rich folks and said it was going to be awfully hard for rich people to get to heaven. They aren’t even happy with cheap, slave Chinese labor- they gotta have a tax break so they get even more money, then look down their noses in disdain at the poor. They got a good job because Mum and Dad got them one- never on their own merits, assed around in college and it didn’t even matter (George W Bush comes to mind)and didn’t even have to serve and defend the very country that lets them make all the money that allows them to have it all. So you have two kinds of aholes- the priviledged, who think they are better than everyone else, and the underpriveledged, who are tired of being kept down and looked down upon by the uuper crust. The rest of us schmucks fall somewhere in between- we just want to do our jobs, and have the assholes leave us the hell alone! But they just can’t! They’ve got to mess with us. On the soccer field, on the road, at work, on the streets- sigh…..when will it stop? There better be a God!
Posted by Lazarus on January 25, 2011 at 9:39 pm
Welcome to the world that we call Earth. The only things that care about you in this world are Yourself and maybe your significant other if you are lucky enough to find one. A lot of people live only to satisfy their own wants and could give a shit what they do to another person as long as they get a laugh or something else out of it. I have seen this happen many times people getting ridiculed, ditched, and so on. It happens all the damn time, but what can we do about it besides go on a rampage which would just end up with you looking like the asshole when in fact it was their fault.
Posted by jeanette Oellrich on March 14, 2011 at 1:23 pm
I totally agree. people can an’ are assholes. Some people have the ability and intensity to act like complete and utter assholes. It’s repulsive an’ I just can’t stand it sometimes. Some things really pis me off but not as much as how so many people act like such asshholes!!!
Posted by Steve on April 9, 2011 at 10:01 pm
I came home one night from a party and searched on google ‘why are people such assholes, not exactly because of the party, but because I’ve been thinking this for a while. I don’t understand it, but I completely agree with your article.
Even if I’m having a bad day, there’s never a moment where I’m snarky or mean to anyone else just because IM having a bad day, that would be bringing someone else down for no reason. Obviously though other people don’t believe in such a theory for some odd reason. It’s like they started their day by getting fucked in the ass and is trying to get everyone to feel the pain their feeling to bring everyone else down to their level.
At my location anyway, it seems like everyone has to be an asshole. Of course there’s the odd ones that aren’t but I’m not focusing on them. I’m starting to feel like I just don’t like people, which isn’t exactly ‘me’, but people are making me feel like this, not myself.
Posted by B on June 19, 2011 at 9:39 pm
This is the battle between good & evil obviously.
Every year it’s the same old scenario,I’m going about minding my own business & some prick decides to act like an outright wanker and run me down simply for his/her own entertainment or to build his/her self esteem up.
I’m so sick & tired of bastards projecting their insecurities on me & out right mocking me for no legitimate reason, trying to prove some bullshit point that’s going to be irrelevant in the long run.
Assholes have been in existence since I was a child when I experienced my first encounter with nastiness from peers & assholes will continue to exist when I’m old ,grey & until I die.
Unfortunately it’s often the people closest that hurt me the most & in spite of all the positive memories it only takes a couple of negative recollections to ruin the good.
I don’t consider myself to be a victim,but I do consider myself a product of my environment.
Ultimately In my heart I know the best thing to do is forgive & move on with life as I believe holding resentment will embitter me & ruin my day (just what the assholes would like to happen) but it’s so hard sometimes.
Posted by B on June 19, 2011 at 10:33 pm
In my above comment ^^^ I’m well aware A holes have been around since the beginning of time & will leave there filthy unwanted stench until the end of time,I was speaking of my personal experience of being graced with their presence.
Posted by Susan C. on June 22, 2011 at 11:02 pm
In the Natvie American spirit world there are giants–BIG giants. Those that are kind, wise, patient, can help others through this struggle–they are spiritual giants and they are different from most. Think of how beautiful it must be to be or see a giant in the spirit world, where all thoughts are things.
Try this: Imagaine that the worst idiot getting under your skin is just a few cells a few hours after the time of conception. As this blastoma grows and travels to its mother’s womb it is in perfect peace and harmony. He or she is born and becomes a child–that person who is doing crazy things now–. Their spirit is scorched by harsh words, aggressive actions. The world changes them. After the body (just a “rented suit”) wears out and, like many older people, they have gone through the stage of growth and development known as life review. They may see then where they were wrong or changed or confused and in turn they do change, in their heart. They may even become a spiritual giant for all to see in the next world.
HOWEVER, I once read that some with undeveloped spirits have only enough as would fit in a small pot, and when they are born, that is what they come with, having little integrity or wisdom. Having developed nothing, they may react like ASSHOLES. It is up to us to teach them, by example, or by way of leaving an infertile, barren place and going to where there is rain, rich soil and growth. Walk away from it and by all means do not feed it. As it is said in the bible of Inida, “If satwa is your raja, YOU WILL LIVE AGAIN.” Don’ live in confusion–reacting to other confused unwise souls.
By the way, Christ did also come to the Americas. (A Walk through the Woods by R. Eagle.)
Posted by doofus on July 6, 2011 at 11:04 am
I dunno but I think you may have just have had some depression because really complete assholes are the clear minority of people.
Also about road rage: I don’t think it’s always about pride but some people just get really anxious when driving… road rage is more of a reaction to stress I think.
We humans by nature are competitive and we have to be so sometimes it’s actually good to be a bit of an ass as it’s easy to be walked all over by being too nice… perhaps you just need to tell the jerk in the soccer game to “f**k off”… a bit of his own medicine… you’d be surprised how effective some solid boundaries are against these folks (ie don’t let them get under your skin)
Posted by Hawaiianwarrior on August 24, 2011 at 2:14 am
I like your story about the shithead you have to play soccer with. People who go around behaving this way, hitting another player in the eye on purpose etc… need to be humbled. They need to get their ass thoroughly kicked. Unfortunately the only way these a-holes learn is some kind of physical punishment. Bully Beatdown, what a great show! My advice to you is learn some Jiu-jitsu and the next time this prick acts up put him in a sleeper hold until he taps. If he keeps it up do it again he’ll learn. Yes we all pray for these people to see the light but sometimes it takes more. Good luck and God bless!
Posted by name withheld on November 15, 2011 at 9:03 pm
People get pissed off at politics because it’s all cheaters, liars and frauds in office these days. Our economy is in the tank because of these people. It’s hard to maintain a life, paying bills, trying to find a job, just getting by day to day. And when someone has been swindled, and keeps getting swindled, it’s at the point where you say, for crying out loud, why is everyone such an asshole, and you start taking it out on others.
Posted by Jadzia on December 5, 2011 at 11:33 pm
I agree 100%. Sometimes all I want to do is go out into the wilderness and be a hermit. Sometimes the thought of going to work to serve the public makes me so ill. I stay severely depressed half the time. Just yesterday a guy yelled at me because my husband was sweeping up spilled food. (We run a restaurant, btw). The broom disturbed his meal he said. I’m sorry but if kids make a big mess at a table we can’t just leave it there. The guy was like 6ft+ and I’m 4’9″ and he was literally hanging over the counter yelling at me. I F*&#ing hate people so much sometimes. Sometimes people are just so mean. I just go in the bathroom and cry out all my frustration. Then I have to go out to meet the customers with red, puffy eyes. Sorry, but I can talk only so much bashing. My husband said he wasn’t even near the guy’s table. He was on the other side of the room sweeping. I guess he wanted us to leave fries and chips laying on the floor for people to step on a smear everywhere until he was done eating.
Posted by Mike Allen on March 11, 2012 at 11:19 am
Totally agree with the article and subsequent comments. I am starting to think we should all get together and start a new society.
Posted by steve west on May 6, 2012 at 7:35 am
im living in a country full of very immature people–im a little bit of an expert on how more spiritual people act–but religion as it is accepted by most is just mood making–anyway–its a shame–its a physically nice country but the people here–are messed up–maybe a genetic thing from eating bad food –so their brains just cant function normally– i can never understand why people want to cause others to suffer–or whatever it is the are doing—i guess they cant maintain any kind of self awareness ,long enough to pull off a mature rational action–like when standing in line at a fast food place–they just come and get in front–without waiting their turn-this explains why this is such a poor country-as it is spiritually bankrupt—it is basically an inability to act normally–like driving impatiently. Being fair and honorable is what life is all about. Not killing people in the name of “god:
-Free will–and karma are the basic mechanisms to achieve heaven or hell–within–they are both there–way i heard it about one third of the human race is so immature that they will go to a situation called “hell” i guess going to place full of people that start wars for money –and cant wait their turn or pass on the left–they are all the same== its just a ,matter of time.
for what iit is worth the world will not be destroyed–as this is being prevented. I never say anything i cant prove. pretty much–.
There is a solution but most people cant see it–so i myself am going to a better country–its a shame–i have a nice nice house for peanuts.
Posted by Lynn on October 6, 2012 at 11:36 pm
You are completely right! It’s so good to hear somebody else acknowledge what is obvious to me. Some people do absolutely everything they can to be assholes, and seem to really enjoy it. And so many people don’t seem to ever develop any empathy or the capacity to care about anyone except for themselves, and even if they do, it’s only in a self-serving capacity, and it’s not genuine. I do think this seems to be an attitude that is prevalent among certain groups of people, though, and that in different circles people are nicer. But some people are just sociopaths, or worse, and just cannot care about anyone else. And it is my perception that sociopathy seems to be a growing problem among children, and it is definitely extremely prevalent among the people I have to interact with daily. I think these people feel like they are intelligent for acting this way. Their self-esteem goes up, and they are proud of themselves for being assholes. However, I would be ashamed to act like that, and I just cannot respect these people. I suppose, if I cared enough about them, I would do the right thing and go out of my way to teach them a lesson. But… some of them are so very mean, and they make me so weary, and alot of times I can’t really win anyway… and plus, I think a confrontation would just make them even more pleased with themselves… so, I just avoid them to the best of my ability. But no matter how much of a bully they are, and how long they have gotten away with their nastiness, it WILL catch up to them. They WILL pay eventually, and the longer that takes, the worse it will ultimately be.
But I think you should beat up that man on the soccer field who elbowed you in the eye and hurt the short girl. You will be doing HIM a favor.