Nothing like a good excuse to post a wedding picture. Such a happy and good looking couple.
The “when are you going to have children?” started LITERALLY hours after Katie and I said I do. I was mingling, as a good groom is supposed to, at our wedding reception and one of my new extended in-laws asked me, in all sincerity, “so when are you going to start having children?” I just smiled and played along, although a part of me wanted to discuss the absurdity of the idea that now that we are married, babies should be here any day. SLOW DOWN. Perhaps we should have placed a table tent on everyone’s table that explained why they shouldn’t be too exited about babies in the near future…
Katie works 80 hours a week. No really, she works 80 hours a week. Not like most people say they work a lot. She ACTUALLY works a lot. She legally cannot work more than 80 hours a week. When your job has to make a rule preventing you from working more than 80 hours you know you work a lot. She simply doesn’t have the time to be a mom, and I do not have the skill, patience, or ability to be a dad without constant backup. Did I mention I have never in my life changed a diaper? I don’t even like HOLDING babies. I am half-tempted (not really, don’t worry Josh or Jason) to just drop the next baby that is thrusted into my arms to hold just so people will stop demanding I hold them. The seeming fragility of a baby (and parents will say they are tough, but I don’t buy it) freaks me out.
And equally important, we just want to enjoy being married for a bit. Granted, the above point gets in the way of any sense of normalcy, but there is something to be said about living life without having a baby soaking up most of your time.
And things were fine post wedding. This is likely due to the fact that we don’t see many people (did I mention that Katie works a lot?), and that my family gets it. But now EVERYONE around us is having babies. Seriously. Seems that every female Katie interacts with is pregnant or has a newborn. Seems many of my friends, not to mention my new boss, are in similar situations. Which is great and fantastic if not for the glowing and yearning look babies and baby talk installs onto Katie’s face. I thought only puppies could make Katie smile that wide and force her voice up a few octaves, but evidently babies are starting to do that now too.
Contrary to popular belief, I am excited to have children and be a dad—just not yet. And I am sure you are never REALLY ready, I just know that I am not at all ready yet. I would miss having free time. Would miss being able to get up and watch soccer on Saturday mornings. Would miss being able to come home to a mostly quiet house (you should hear Lucy squeak for wet food!). And perhaps most of all I am just not ready for my life to revolve around children. I am still too selfish, apparently, for that.
So for all of you wondering, relax or you are going to be wondering for awhile (hopefully).
